At some point in our life's we may have a confidence setback and getting back on track is not always as easy as it may appear, nor as straight forward as you may think.
I know this as I have gone through a massive confidence breakdown, it has taken me over 30 months to get myself back. It has been a long hard road with many dead ends and mirages of hope that are figments of ones imagination as your so desperate to achieve and get back to normal, too just get back to where you where.
I tried many therapy's and though some worked to a point my issue was so deeply imbedded it needed time, and the deaddiction not to give in but keep chipping away.
I have since helped others with my range of knowledge, experience and patience to help get them back on track to believe in ones self confidence to improve and succeed there goals .
I work in all aspects of confidence building.
Sport and Equestrian are my main speciality but I can also help other issues.
I also work with animals that are lacking in there own self confidence, whether its nerves or a bad experience etc..
In September 2019 I had a very unexpected nasty fall when jumping a height, I was jumping consistently and winning at (1.10m). I was also getting good placings in 1.20/1.25m and had started steeping up to 1.30m classes.
When you have been at the top of your game and winning, to not being able to do even the simplest of things is a huge knock back and it really makes you feel worthless. That one nasty fall is all it took to end my world as it had been, the bond with my horse had been shattered and that trust had been taken away like switching off a light.
Not being able to trust your horse plays a huge part in the game and you need that bond and trust with each other to excel and be the best you both can that day.
I went from jumping at a competitive level over some huge fences, to not being able to trot over a 30cm cross pole and it was devastating, frustrating and deeply upsetting to only name a few feelings.
Fixing this seemed simple, just keep trying to push on and it will come back next week. Yes, it did for a month or so, jumping small courses but the problem of trust and partnership was still broken so this did not last long.
To be able to admit your problem to its full extent and that you are at the end of a piece of string with no more to unravel is hard to do.
In some cases, like myself you are so desperate to continue to try and work through dragging along getting nowhere. It is only when you finally have that courage to throw the reins down in the ring and physically break down and admit that you need help and guidance, that is when you realise it is not just about lacking in a little bit of confidence. It is depression, stress, anger, embarrassment, frustration, desperation and everything else.
I started to have sessions with TFT and EFT tapping therapy, having these sessions helped me to understand my worries and problems and we began to work through them utilising tapping on the Meridian points. This all helps remove the negativity and emotions, enabling you to see things in a more positive light. The tapping may sound daft to some, but it is a scientifically proven therapy; for me it worked.
So, putting things in an easy way of understanding.
A big deep dark hole with a box of hidden matches!
When you finally admit and submit yourself to rock bottom in the pitch black is when you stumble across a box of matches, then you can take out a match and light it to see the first flicker of light which will help you to find the first step to getting up and out of the dark.
For myself it is a bigger box of matches and striking one at a time for each step up, but sometimes you come across a damp one what wont light up! At this point you have two choices, give up or continue. I am slowly getting back to where I was 18 months ago, and I want and will go beyond that!
As for others it may be as simple as needing help to find the box of matches to find a door and open it!